3.4 Happiness

Thoughts on the family and happiness.

In studying world ethics we find that different philosophers, and civilizations for that matter, have varied viewpoints on what is true happiness. In fact, some belief systems do not place happiness on the "radar". Their focus is in a different area. In the family setting these same dynamics can exist; albeit, not usually to the degree that two different societies may differ. As a family matures together there is sometimes a strengthening of relationships. As a result, happiness may evolve into something that is very simple in nature. Going back to a previous blog on coping with stress, happiness can be impacted either negatively or positively depending upon the family dynamics. If the parents assume their proper role and take responsibility in guiding the family then there can a balance......as a result, everyone has a better chance of defining and achieving happiness..what ever it might be. However, if there is selfishness and disfunctionality then there is the potential for chaos. It is then where our happiness is looked for outside the family at an early age through peer groups, etc.

Happiness...What is really important to us when the day is done. We sense some happiness in a job well done, a hobby that we enjoy participating in and are successful at, seeing the success in others such as our spouse or children (or students if we are a teacher), etc. Oftentimes happiness is defined as having something that we lost and regained or almost lost but didn't. Our health is one example of this......we can be diagnosed with a serious disease and completely lose it all....stressed out and so on. But, if we are fortunate enough to overcome it, we (hopefully) develop a renewed respect and value to our health.......happiness is then defined as having good health.

Indivual happiness in the family unit may be in constant flux due to the fact that we live in close proximity. This has the potential of both giving and taking a measure of happiness. This can be source of strength for us. Imagine what it would be like to always have your way, always satisfied, nothing to challenge you. Didn't spell check or review this posting.